Normally when we discuss intention, it’s about our internal directive . Whether that is being more loving, maintaining balance in our lives etc , its alays easy to understand our own objectives. But what about when it comes to others?
For instance, what about the driver who cuts you off in traffic? Do you believe they’re being aggressive? Or the person who repeatedly kicks the back of your seat in a movie theater or airplane? Are they being deliberately annoying?
How we interpret another’s intention actually reveals more about ourselves than them. The stories we fabricate of what we’re observing, can be subtle but rampant. Yet this is the cognitive energy we lug around when we unconsciously follow these unexplored guesses that usually result in lashing, negative and superficial judgments.
We get what we believe. When we constantly evaluate people’s motives as being corrupt, immoral, or purposely ignorant that is the truth that comes to us because, most of the time, we’re projecting a conclusion.
Without proper communication, it’s rare that we truly understand what has happened in someone’s decision making process and until we know that, we operate on pure speculation for who they are and why they do what they do.
When we pause to observe our thoughts, we have the power to change them by cultivating the possibility for something more expansive and compassionate to develop.
Maybe the driver is in a panic to get home to an emergency? Perhaps the fidgety chair-kicker is stressed out about pending news that could drastically affect their life.
These small moments are the kernels that seed our larger belief system to covet opinions of separation or allow us to live in harmony from the inside, out.
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